What Is Your Issue?
- You feel stressed or anxious?
- You feel sad or depressed?
- Your 'flying off the handle' is creating problems?
- You have been affected by abuse?
- You experienced loss or bereavement?
- You were bullied or have issues with confidence?
- You go through life changes?
- You have issues with relationships?
- Maybe you just want to talk through an issue?
- You want to make sense of a problematic event that sticks in your mind?
- You want to change your behaviour?
- You suffer from obsessions?
- You want to abolish self-criticism and enhance self-compassion?
- You want to find meaning and purpose?
- Your sexual behaviour has become problematic? Find more here
Coping mechanisms from childhood can stop us from being our True Self. Here are some examples:
- Harsh self-judgement because it kept you in line as a child (not being in line was dangerous)
- You are consumed with attracting attention because you did not get the approval you needed as a child.
- You are craving to meet people's expectations so they can value you because you were not valued as a child.
- You are very demanding because you were not made to feel special as a child.
- You want to impress people because you weren't esteemed for just who you were as a child.
- You are helping people all the time to gain a sense of importance because your importance was not valued as a child.
- You are too nice and suppress some of your authentic personality aspects in order to be liked, because you were not liked for who you were as a child.
- You are very charming because you were not loved as a child.
- You seek status and success but feel emptiness and hurt inside, because you were not recognised for who you were, and you still are not recognised for who you are.
Once you have a desire to care about your Self, you are on the way. You might struggle for a little while because you do not see who you really are; but then there will be a moment of clarity, when you understand the defences you built up within you, when you realise that they protected your vulnerability and hence need to be valued instead of being directly opposed. These defences enabled you to survive and to cope—despite of your hurting, despite of the burden you might be carrying. Connecting to your inner parts and processes in a creative and caring dialogue brings awareness of your real Self and finally—through healing—also harmonisation. This is the essence of what is called Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy, introduced by Richard Schwartz; but it is also the core of Gabor Maté’s Compassionate Inquiry and other therapeutic approaches that gently engage with those parts of the nervous system that unconsciously hold emotional memories and emotional learning.
I would like to facilitate this inner change. In a first free video assessment of 20 min we find out if we can work with each other and how we can proceed. And we take it from there...